Hi, Please help. Im really stuggling with the dating game and struggling to read the signals.
I went on a first date on sat night and it seemed to go really well. I really liked the guy. We got on well in the date even though i was nervous. He said that he had a nice time, seemed to initate another meet up bysaying things like i will have to choose the next film that we see and when it come to the end of the date and saying good bye he grabbed me and kissed me.
I then txt him the next day and said that i had a nice time and hope we can do something again. He replied saying that he had a nice time too and said that yeah we can meet again soon but he is not sure when. We also spoke on line and when we did he asked mne questions such as was he what i expected and was concerend that he may of scared me by kissing me at the end of the date. I replied and said he was really nice and i liked the fact that he kissed me.
I then txt him on tues and he didnt reply so i sent a casual email yesterday to which he responded, im ok thank you, how are you, how are things and he apologised for not responding to my text message. I then messaged back talking about the weekend, said im busy on Saturday and asked him what he is doing. He responded saying im going out with my friends on Friday night and probably nothing else.
Am i reading in to this too much or is this an opening for me to ask him out for the next date? Is he playing it cool and seeing how interested i am? Should i use this opportunity to ask him out for the next date?
I really liked him and want to see him again. But i dont want to come across as desperate and feel like im getting mixed signals.
Please help
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Hi, it sounds like a perfectly lovely time you both had and will probably have again. The timespan of these events from your description seems to be really short, like within a couple of weeks. It seems like you're maybe getting overexcited about it. Relax, take it slow, there's no rush is there? Part of the fun of dating is not knowing the outcome, so enjoy that mystery and intrigue while you can. Quite frankly, it sounds to me as if he's interested in you as much as you are in him and you both can't see this because you're too invested.
Sure, go ahead and ask him out. I'm sure that would impress him. If he's busy or says no, don't take it personally though. Sometimes people really are just busy. You probably don't have a lot of experience in asking guys out, so I'll let you in on a little secret from the other gender perspective. The mistake a lot of guys make when they first ask a girl out is that they put so much investment into it that if they are rejected it totally crushes their world and they lose a lot of self esteem. It usually takes quite a while to realize that the answer to one proposition be it yes, or no, is not the cornerstone that will make or break your whole life.
Dating should be fun, and when it is, it has the potentital to lead to longer term things which might just end up resulting in a lifetime of fun. So do whatever you feel would be the most fun. Make a game out of it, ensuring that both parties are having equal amounts of enjoyment in it. Chances are if you are enjoying yourself, so too will the other person, especially when you take the lead and ask him out.
Best of luck.
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