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How do i approach a girl ?
Question: I'm a 19 year old guy studying at college in UK and there is a girl who i've seen around at the college, mainly in the library. I would like to approach her but have no clue what to say & i'm afraid she might laugh at me for trying to speak to her. I have no confidence & i'm afraid the girl has noticed my attention / interest because she's caught me looking a few times..
How do i approach her & what do i say ?
Answer: The best thing to do is to approach right away and just make conversation about something random and/or relevant to what you're doing, like if it's in a library, maybe ask about the book she's looking at or see what project she's trying to do. If you know something about the subject, so much the better. Either way, crack a joke, that usually helps.
It's important not to sit around in the shadows staring because you might be branded as creepy because quite frankly, it kinda is. You'll ruin your chances doing that.
The easiest base case scenario is to approach, ask her name and find out what school programme she's taking and talk about that.
It's really important to read her body language. If she seems distracted or busy or uninterested, just keep it short and simple and split. She will appreciate you respecting her space and her emotions. She might even approach you later some other day when she sees you and apologize for being "in a mood" earlier. The key is don't overstay your welcome. Make her aware of your existence and only hang around so long as she's interested.
I'll tell you right off the bat, the most difficult thing to get past is your own ego. If you put too much energy or hope into one particular chance encounter, you will just be doing yourself a disservice. If you get upset with rejection, you'll waste years of your life getting over it.
Just think of it as a learning experience and get practice. Just like anything you'll probably fail a few times at first, or maybe even a lot. Just look at Boomhauer from the TV show "King of the Hill". He fails all the time, but also succeeds a lot too. Now I'm not saying use him as a role model, but just don't get down when you mess up. In fact, make fun of it and you'll turn failure into a win.
If you make approaching women out to be a "life or death" situation then it will be. If it's just a fun hobby, then that will show. Think about it. Which would you rather be around? Someone who's in "life or death" mode or someone who's having a good time with their hobby?
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Da Roo
Life is the solution to a problem that has no definition
Last Online: 2010-07-24 1:12 AM
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A Bad Day
A police officer in a small town stopped a motorist who was speeding down Main Street. "But officer," the man began, "I can explain."
"Just be quiet," snapped the officer. "I'm going to let you cool your heels in jail until the chief gets back."
"But, officer, I just wanted to say,..."
"And I said to keep quiet! You're going to jail!"
A few hours later the officer looked in on his prisoner and said, "Lucky for you that the chief's at his daughter's wedding. He'll be in a good mood when he gets back."
"Don't count on it," answered the fellow in the cell. "I'm the groom."
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Da Roo
Life is the solution to a problem that has no definition
Last Online: 2010-07-24 1:12 AM
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Time Travel
2006-12-30 2:42AM
Copyright (c) 2006 Drew Mcpherson
Time travel paradoxes are resolved by understanding that it is not physical matter which moves through the fourth dimension, but rather consciousness of spacetime which moves through the fifth dimension. For instance, a person's consciousness has a certain velocity through the fourth dimension, time, and if it were to have a lateral shift through the fifth dimension, then all of spacetime would appear to change, in ways which could be explained by fourth dimensional spacetime paradoxes, but require no paradoxes when considering the fifth dimension and consciousness. All possibilities of all configurations of matter exist in some frame of reality, it would simply be a matter of shifting to the appropriate one by disconnecting the consciousness from the material world of spacetime, and then re-connecting it to a different point. This seems to be what nitrous does, in that it obviously disconnects the mind (consciousness) from the body (matter/spacetime). A psychedelic such as LSD or psilocybin enhances the sensory brainwaves of the two connecting points so that the transition can more readily be perceived. The difference between LSD and psilocybin are in how smoothly the transition is perceived to be. With LSD the transition is perceived to be a gradual morphing. With psilocybin, the transition is more sudden and instantaneous.
Consider how our consciousness understands and affects three and four dimensional reality. We can move our bodies in three dimensional space, but interestingly, this assumes a fixed, absolute three dimensional reality. In actuality, we are not AFFECTING three dimensional reality when we move about, because all possible variants of three dimensional reality already exist. What we are actually doing, is shifting our consciousness, our perception of reality to be linked to the particular three dimensional universe with the appropriately positioned matter. Affecting the fourth dimensional universe occurs in a similar fashion, with a similar shift of consciousness. For instance, if we are driving a car which is traveling at a certain velocity, and it is about to hit an object ahead of it, we can "press the brakes", ie: shift our consciousness to a reality where that happens, and slow the car in the future to prevent the collision. This is actually a shift to a new fourth dimensional universe.
There do appear to be physical laws in a particular fifth dimensional universe. In actuality, this may not be the case. It may be that this is merely an expression of metaphysical laws about how our consciousness either can or does shift through the fourth and fifth dimensions.
Once we start understanding and shifting through the sixth dimension is when we enter the realm of changing the physical laws, like gravity and the speed of light and such. We basically become immortal, because we are able to shift to any point in the six dimensions of the universe that we understand. And so on and so forth with the remainder of the infinite dimensions. Once we have understood the infinite dimensions, we can understand the metadimensions which encompass the lower dimensions.
In understanding more than the three dimensions that entities without memory understand and the four dimensions that entities with memory understand, and by developing our fifth dimensional memory we can progressively become more and more omniscient and as such, seemingly omnipotent. This would certainly become boring after a while, and so that is why there are an infinite number of dimensions and meta-dimensions (collections of infinite sets of regular or “lower” dimensions – ie: including the three or four that we typically perceive and view as “real”) to understand here.
In summary, by having a different perception about what the universe looks like and how we perceive it, there are actually no time travel paradoxes. By recognizing it as more than a static and absolute thing, time travel makes perfect sense and so do all of the confusing situations which seemingly arise during the course of altering things in the supposedly “static” past. The past is dynamic and multidimensional and all possible pasts which could happen do have a corresponding representation in reality which we could easily “tap into” and perceive consciously, with the proper understanding and application of that knowledge.
Given this, everything that happens in our conscious reality exists because we have chosen to view this particular reality as opposed to all other infinite possibilities. So if we are in a certain situation in reality then it is because we have chosen to be consciously aware of the reality where this situation occurs. Likewise, and perhaps less obviously, if someone else is in a certain situation in the reality we perceive, it is because we chose to view that person as being in that situation, and we could change it quite easily. This makes interactions and relationships much less complex and fairly obvious and fully under our control.
This is sort of like the Schrodinger’s cat explanation of quantum mechanics, in terms of conscious “perception” where the observer of the cat is consciousness and the state of the cat is the state of all reality.
Footnote: I would like to meet someone who can successfully wrap their head around this.
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Da Roo
Life is the solution to a problem that has no definition
Last Online: 2010-07-24 1:12 AM
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